Way too often do woman compliment themselves on how much they're "wifey" material. And not often enough, do women take time out to ask themselves why they're "wifey" material but still single. Here are my thoughts:
One of several reasons why is because women pry themseleves on being independent too much. And eventually that independence leads to cockiniess, and then that cockiness somehow turns into an overly strong black women, and that eventually leads to agression. As weird and unorthodox as that transitiion may sound, its true. Women always tell men to act like men, but how can they when women insist on wearing the pants? Often times, women give men two alternatives; their way or the high way. And niether option is desirable.
Men want women who are independent. Yes. But not to the point where their independence becomes masculine. Men like the word "daddy" for a reason. It symbolizes power, strength and testosterone. Naturally, men like to feel like men. And a man who likes to feel as such, doesn't want a women who possesses the same characteristics. So my advice to agressive women is to tone it down. It's not about changing who you are to find a man. It's about altering small parts of yourself to make men feel comfortable.
TWIN,
ReplyDeleteI AGREE WITH WHAT YOU ARE SAYING, AND WOULD LIKE TO ADD ON...I THINK THAT THE PHRASE "INDEPENDENT WOMAN" IS OVERATED. I BELIEVE INDEPENDENCE IS A STATE OF MIND, AS WELL AS A "LITERAL" MEANING. AND A LOT OF TIMES I DONT THINK ITS THE FACT THAT A WOMAN'S "INDEPENDENCE"(LITERAL SENSE:CAR, HOUSE, SCHOOLING) PUSH MEN AWAY, I THINK ON TOP OF THE AGRESSION, ITS THE FACT THAT THEY ARE TRULY NOT INDEPENDENT. SOCIETY, MUSIC VIDEOS, ETC HAVE MADE WOMEN FEEL LIKE IN ORDER TO BE INDEPENDENT THESE ARE THE THINGS YOU NEED TO HAVE IN ORDER. FINE, BUT WHAT ABOUT YOUR MENTAL STATE, WHAT ABOUT YOUR SPIRITUAL STATE...AND JUST PERSONALITY PERIOD? EVENTHOUGH IM IN A SAME SEX RELATIONSHIP, I HAVE IN THE PAST BEEN IN A HETERO-RELATIONSHIP...AND MEN DONT WANNA HEAR THAT INDEPENDENT ISH*...YOUR INDEPENCE SHOULD SPEAK FOR ITSELF...AND WOMEN NEED TO CHECK THEMSELVES IF THEY COME OFF AS "AGRESSIVE" BECAUSE TO ME THAT IS A SIGN OF INTIMIDATION, AND WHEN UR TRULY "INDEPENDENT" THERE WOULD BE NO NEED FOR THAT. IN A RELATIONSHIP, LIKE MY WIFE SAID IN HER VOWS, SHE WOULD RATHER COMPLETE ME, THAN COMPETE WITH ME....BIG DIFFERENCE, AND I FEEL LIKE THAT IS WHAT A LOT OF WOMEN IN RELATIONSHIPS OR LACK THERE OF ARE MISSING THE POINT OF....